LO’s Day

Today marks one year since we miscarried LO; and, in typical middle-child fashion, is a day both Nick and I almost missed despite the reminder in our shared Google calendar. We almost missed it at least in part because we live with a newborn and miss a lot of things right now. While we firmly believe a loss is a loss, and we were deeply impacted by losing LO, he is also overshadowed by the trauma of his big sister’s stillbirth. That said, this is very much a day we both want to mark, remembering another baby who didn’t get to come home with us.

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Due Dates & Other Details

Over the weekend, Nick wrote a post about one of the most frequently asked pregnancy questions. There are other questions, too, often about choices a couple makes. In each pregnancy, Nick and I have chosen not to find out gender. We like the surprise and fun of finding out at delivery, of Nick being able to announce “It’s a Girl!” or “It’s a Boy!” and share the news with our family and friends. It also really helps us not receive a bunch of pink or blue stuff when that is not our style. Our nursery is decked out in Dr. Seuss and primary colors. We just don’t need to know, but people love to ask. Not knowing seems to really bother other people, when really it isn’t their business.

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