A few weeks ago I wrote about a circle theory applicable in the midst of trauma or loss. Last week I wrote about what people in the Outer Circles can do to help someone facing loss. This week we’ll talk about Middle Circles. Middle Circle people might include close coworkers, neighbors you let know when you’re out of town, most friends, and people you see and share life with on a regular basis. Everything the Outer Circles can do to help also applies to the Middle Circles, and Middle Circles can add a layer of intimacy to their help.
I started noticing it over the winter; I know I haven’t been a good friend in months. That is not the way I want to be. I want to be the friend who remembers your birthday. I want to be the friend who can celebrate your pregnancy, your new baby. I want to be the friend who can have compassion for your sick pet.
If you recall from last week, there’s a circle theory applicable in the midst of trauma or loss. The Outer Circles are those who are part of someone’s life, but not a family member or close friend. Neighbors up the street, business partners, friends of friends, 5th cousins, random Facebook friends, acquaintances and more all fit into the outer community circles. This post includes ways anyone can show up in support of people experiencing loss.
Nick once wrote about the Unofficial Club of parents who’ve lost children. Since joining the club we’ve known or been connected with several families recently joining. For us, being able to support these parents and those who care about them is an important part of our journey. Reaching out to sisters, grandparents, in-laws, and friends as they wonder what to do for the one they love who is experiencing such great pain.